When did you last take a moment to reflect and take stock of just how relatable you really are? And what exactly does it even mean to be relatable in today’s social media landscape? Is there a distinction between likability and relatability? This week we answer these questions (and much more) with the indomitable Rachel DeAlto, Relationship Expert, Keynote Speaker, and Author of Relatable: How To Connect With Anyone, Anywhere (Even if It Scares You). Tuning in, you’ll hear all about Rachel’s transformative insights into what it means to be relatable, as well as some of the most prevalent roadblocks that prevent us from connecting with others. In our conversation, Rachel introduces helpful and accessible concepts for overcoming key obstacles like understanding your confidence-shaped holes and how to identify your “then what?” You’ll also learn more about her DFF method (Dig, Fake, and Focus) and gain a deeper understanding of how having a sense of purpose can provide resilience on social media. Be sure to tune in to this life-affirming episode on relatability, connection, and much more!
In this episode you’ll:
- Get to know today’s guest Rachel DeAlto, author of Relatable: How To Connect With Anyone, Anywhere (Even if It Scares You).
- Discover how Rachel went from being a successful lawyer to an enterprising flirting coach.
- Hear about the difficult time Rachel had in high school and what it taught her about relationships.
- Learn about how having a façade of perfection prohibits you from forming real connections.
- Gain a deeper understanding of how past rejection can impact your confidence.
- Discover Rachel’s DFF method: Dig, Fake, and Focus, for gaining self-knowledge, uncovering self-worth, and harnessing the neuroplasticity of your brain.
- Take a renewed look at the impact of phrasing and learn how to become intentional about your word choices.
- Become acquainted with the concept of your “then what?” and how to discover yours.
- Gain insight into the key distinction between likability and relatability.
- Equip yourself with the tools to become more resilient to the negative impacts of social media.
“If we’re building a connection based on something that’s not real, and not substantial, and not soul-based or heart-based, then what is actually being connected?” — @RachelDeAlto [0:09:50]
“I don’t think those influencers that showed up completely different than how they were are doing it to be malicious. I believe that it was because they want to be liked. They want people to look up to them. They want people to admire them. They want people to like them.” — @RachelDeAlto [0:12:05]
“Neuroplasticity is like your brain is playdough, your brain will acclimate. The more that you start to embrace these different feelings, and embrace these different emotions, and embrace this action of confidence, you’ll start to actually see the change within you.” — @RachelDeAlto [0:15:45]
“Being straightforward is really focusing on assertive communication and being intentional with our words, instead of utilizing these other ways of communicating like passive-aggressive, or aggressive, or just passive, because it’s not going to get the point across.” — @RachelDeAlto [0:20:31]
“You have to have some sort of purpose behind you, because that’s what drives you, and that’s what really does light you up and makes people super interested in getting to know you and wanting to invest their energy in you.” — @RachelDeAlto [0:25:03]
“We do need to armor up when it comes to social media, whether we’re 11 years old, or 39 years old, or 55 years old, because it’s not going anywhere.” — @mrs_erin_king [0:27:48]
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